Sunday, June 9

Is A Lack Of Self-Confidence Ruining Your Relationships With Women? By Ray Drake

Most guys want to meet that special someone and if this describes you, you may be wondering why it's so hard to get into a successful relationship. The problem may lie with yourself though. I have found out that one of the biggest obstacles for guys and relationships is self-doubt. Not being confident in themselves tends to end relationships before they even start. Let's dig a little deeper. If you don't think of yourself as a catch, what girl is going to? Women tend to pick up the non-verbal cues that guys emit. If you approach a woman to start a conversation and don't appear to have any self-confidence, she's going to get the impression that you don't believe anything that you're saying.

This isn't going to be at all attractive to her, and chances are, she'll leave the first chance she get. The good news is that if you can solve your tendency to second guess yourself, you'll fix the majority of your dating problems! Almost all of the problems that guys have when approaching women can be linked back to self-doubt. If you can get over this obstacle, you'll find that your relationships are much better, women will be more attracted to you, and you'll feel confident pursuing the woman of your dreams. In order to conquer your self-doubt, try to determine the cause. Do you not feel physically attractive? Do you feel as though you're not important enough in your job? Ask yourself a series of questions about yourself and your lifestyle to determine the origin of self-doubt. Once you pinpoint the source, you can begin to address the issue and become more confident in your daily life.

For example, if you're not happy about your body, think of ways to make changes or ways to feel more confident in your appearance. Chances are, there's multiple ways to decrease your self-doubt. Once you start to get rid of your doubts and fears, you'll feel much less pressure. Instead of feeling a sense of desperation about approaching women, you'll feel more confident hanging back until you've found someone that truly captures your attention. Then, you'll also feel better about approaching her and starting a conversation.

Your biggest obstacle is almost always yourself so if you can get around that, you'll find that the majority of your problems are over. By removing self-doubt, your self-esteem and self-worth will increase dramatically. Don't let your unique personality be controlled by doubt and anxiety. Women love guys who genuinely like themselves and if you can get to a place where you feel comfortable in your own skin, you'll find that you have much more successful relationships. Remember that it can take some time to increase your self-worth, so don't get frustrated along the way. Look for the small things to increase your confidence and work on making changes every day to accomplish this goal. Within just a few days and weeks, you'll feel more comfortable talking to women and notice that they begin to respond more positively to you as well.